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There is more to it than that. I might say something in the room in reply to a question like yours. But I will glance at the location and when there is a distance I generally don't say much. And for me, I know my weight, age and looks are not the interest of most. So, it may not be you but the others in the room that don't feel attractive, skilled or share the same interests.

That sounds like from a "Let's meet up and have a match," stand point. Which I spoke of in my previous blog.

Where I'm getting at is that everyone should be and feel welcomed in a chat room where we all at least have ONE interest. Doesn't matter whether you find them attractive or they live close enough to you or not. And if that welcome back leads them into asking for a match, it's quite alright to politely turn them down.

And trust me, I totally understand the whole,"maybe I'm not attractive enough to message this person," kind of thing. Because I still get in that mindset. However, I also remember that saying, "A closed mouth doesn't get fed." And if they turn me down or leave me on read, that's a reflection on who they are as a person, not me.

You are quite right, you're not wrong. Some might say no no no, and say whatever, I can't get into their minds and don't won't too. Most in my opinion I think would say yes yes yes.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Love your photo.

Great attitude

Fantastic attitude Army Grappler!

Hey man. Yeah that’s a fair assessment. And then sone just don’t like certain personalities.

But yeah, they way you speak is the way it should be. But… lol. Thanks for sharing man and I hope your experiences are better.

Thank you for making this post. I'm still fairly new to the site and I've met a lot of welcoming and fantastic people so far through the main chat, some of them already longterm friends cause I added them on my other socials. But also it's not to say I haven't been snubbed or ignored plenty of times because of "lack of experience" and giving me crap because of that. It is what it is, we all gotta start somewhere.

It's also incredibly intimidating for me to make first contact with someone who has years of experience and has good clout on this site, so posting this means a lot. I enjoy other people's company if our energies match, and I love talking about our days, hobbies, interests, so on.

Agree with all of your comments. I don't bother with chat now. Havnt for a long time. I see the chat and site in general seems to be more like a gating site. Very few here yo meet guys to wrestle. It seems more about hook ups. I can use dating sites for that. I think the site becoming unfit for purpose...more about guys getting off messaging about their fantasies

Another consideration ............. there are a wide diversity of specialty chat rooms that are active in addition to the main room. Everyone is in the main room, but folks specially into bearhugs or wrasslers/fighters over 60yo or etc. etc. etc. may not be watching the main room. I know I rarely see general messages in the main room when I log in. I immediately head to the sets of special focus rooms. I wonder how many men really pay attention to the general chats posted in the main room? I would chat with you anytime!

While I don't disagree with ArmyVetGrappler's overall points, my first thought was what WrestlingCowboy wrote here. When I'm in chat, I'm not spending much time monitoring what's going on in the main chat. I'm usually chatting with individual guys in our own private chats, and hopping from one to another. While I do say hello in the main chat in response to salutations, I miss them much more than I catch them just because I'm paying attention elsewhere. It's certainly not intended as a snub to anyone. Punch line: there could be lots of reasons for what ArmyVetGrappler has observed.

About all I can say to his comments: "ditto".

I find that the main chat is either one where there is a “hi” in reply like a quick introduction, and that’s about it….. or if you are regularly in there, there will be some group chat among friends . It can be hard to get into the group, unless you have some stand out features that attract attention.

I find that the other rooms are friendlier when you have several guys with similar interests. Now that I have developed connections on the site, I mostly spend time on one to one chats in private. Occasionally I will dip back into main chats.

Basically, I think it’s about finding whatever works best and just let the rest go over your head

I 100% agree. Most of the time in the chatroom is fine but a few times recently I've felt completely ignored in the main chat. It's a little frustrating, but you can't be everyone's favorite right? haha

Many of us have limited time to check messages and see from your favorites who is in the chat. If you're sole purpose is setting up matches, I would never choose to make time small talk chatting with someone. There are people there for that, and that's great. But that's not me.

I have the main chat open since I like having some company when I’m home by myself. I’ve been in a few group chats on a few platforms and this flows like they did - sometimes it’s active sometimes it’s not. Sometimes you can very well click into the conversation and sometimes not (which is fine.) For those on this site who tend to have online buddies but don’t use the main chat, curious, how do you find em?

Amen brotha 🙏🙏👍🏻👍🏻