It is about respect gentlemen. Age has little to do with it, except it does seem, (and this makes me sound like my dad), that many of the younger wrestlers on this and any site were not taught that “manners make the man”. I don’t speak from outrage because frankly having wrestled younger and older opponents the older wrestlers are much more to my liking in a lot of ways, skill, attitude and integrity. The majority of flakes I’ve run into over my decades of wrestling were of a generation with no concept of manners or personal responsibility. LOL, last month a younger wrestler that contacted me, challenged me and then proceeded to ghost me and wrestle fronds that I had recommended to him. My solution? I prefer wrestlers of my generation. Let the kids learn that there is a price for that kind of behavior and if we are lucky enough we ALL grow older.
This original post was before covid. Covid made this MUCH worse. It made everyone a pic collector, i.e. not ever interested in meeting, and your profile is treated as an only fans. Hence the dawn of watchfighters.
People not only can't make a meeting, they often cannot even have complete conversations or even respond at all to anything.
I guess the other side to this is when another wrestler ignores your messages, comments etc. after contacting you, and then complains about not getting matches and others not responding.
This type of stuff has been going 0n for years. Even before the wrestling websites. When wrestling matches were created in local wrestling clubs or wrestling contact lists. There were always guys who like to talk a good game, but then when it comes to action there’s a lot of no shows. You just have to roll with the punches. Just remember you can also block people. If contact someone and they say they’re not interested I block them, so that I won’t contact them again by mistake. Yes there are some men who use this site like a dating site, because maybe they’re into wrestling as well, and want to have a date with another wrestler. The can have a wrestling date. Then there are the curious men who want to see what MeetFighters is all about, and the men who are on it. Whenever you set up a match with someone you always take the chance that the won’t follow through. That is why I try not to make hotel matches unless I’m already staying in one for trips or business. Myself if I make a commitment to someone I usually follow through, and if I can’t I always try to give them a day’s notice. Being in this wrestling community we all have have patience and pick out our opponents wisely.
We get them all the time in Fort Lauderdale. I do not know how to stop it or how we can encourage some of these websites to stop this kind of behavior. I talked to a guy for a match and he blocks me without saying 3 sentences.
According to your profile, you've been on the site for 18 days as of this post. You've managed to connect with ten people.
You aren't really looking for serious matches but instead hope to find guys for some "viewing and gentle roll around". You successfully met up with 2 guys for this. A 20% success rate right out of the gate! Just about 1 meet-up per week.
That doesn't seem too bad. In fact, if I'm being completely honest, it seems shockingly good.
Is it possible that you've got slightly unrealistic expectations for this site? Perhaps you can give us a sense for what you were expecting to happen when you joined? Did you anticipate meet ups every other day? (Maybe you did....fair enough. But a lot of guys here complain about barely finding 1-2 per year.)
Also, just a suggestion: I do know that some guys find it helpful to tag former opponents and write recommendations after matches. That tends to grow the credibility of your profile when others can verify your style and match expectations. So you might try that as well.
The biggest issue is still ageism and other bigotry. in a city such as Las Vegas with 24/7 transit in many areas and transit to 1am in most other areas meeting up should be easy. If one is providing mats even easier. Overcoming irrational prejudices though is hard.
Hate to share this experience to contradict yours, but actually most of the no shows and people living a wrestling fantasy from my experience are older guys - many of whom don't seem to be able to see beyond the next online w*&k and don't seem to imagine that you might REALLY want to wrestle.
Within 2 weeks of joining Meetfighters I had received 10 requests from guys asking for a meeting.
Many of them from members of this "Wrestlers over age 50" group.
So far only 2 of them have showed up.
The others have either made lame excuses about not actually being able to meet because of - "my work", "my car","my wife", "my diary" or "I have to take my pussy to the vet" (!) or "I'm still thinking about it".
Seems to me that Meetfighters has its fair share of TIMEWASTERS just like all the other dating sites.
Does anyone agree with me?
I totally agree with you..3 no shows this week...promises, promises, delays, then silence, silence, silence..there are those on this site, based on past experience that seem to enjoy screwing with people this way. Some will show past opponents, some won't. Of course ageism is a MAJOR problem on this site as well.
2 meets within 2 weeks is fantastic! Sounds like your expectations are a bit high. There are plenty of flakes and fakes... comes with the territory. And this is not primarily a "dating" website.
Of course folks are here for different reasons..... BUT< IF this is not a "dating" sight, there is then no need for sexual designations, private pics of private parts, sexual preference or "want sex or not want sex"....because strictly wrestling, frankly, requires knowing none of that...or even what someone looks like...not if wrestling is ALL you're after here. So......
Have had people email me back and forth, then on the day we are scheduled to meet get blocked. Another case a guy says he is on his way and then gives me excuses of being "stuck in traffic" but the traffic website shows no traffic, then his radiator broke down, etc etc...hours of this nonsense...would be nice if he just cannot make it or no longer interested or similar but to make me thing he is enroute when he is not is quite cruel. I gave him and told him that as a courtesy would not list him as a no show but still no apology or explanation. He lives only 8 km away.
Tritonrising (25)
20/2/2024 10:48It is about respect gentlemen. Age has little to do with it, except it does seem, (and this makes me sound like my dad), that many of the younger wrestlers on this and any site were not taught that “manners make the man”. I don’t speak from outrage because frankly having wrestled younger and older opponents the older wrestlers are much more to my liking in a lot of ways, skill, attitude and integrity. The majority of flakes I’ve run into over my decades of wrestling were of a generation with no concept of manners or personal responsibility. LOL, last month a younger wrestler that contacted me, challenged me and then proceeded to ghost me and wrestle fronds that I had recommended to him. My solution? I prefer wrestlers of my generation. Let the kids learn that there is a price for that kind of behavior and if we are lucky enough we ALL grow older.
ScorpGrapple (15)
21/2/2024 17:14(em resposta à...)
Yes, well said. Unfortunately it's always necessary to repeat it.
Mean Darth Flash (0)
21/2/2024 05:14(em resposta à...)
Very well said Sir!
JerseyLuchador (15 )
20/2/2024 20:34(em resposta à...)
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼Well Stated. Tritonrising!
wrestlepa (38)
19/2/2024 14:02People who don't respond back to your message.
Johndddd (3)
20/2/2024 19:11(em resposta à...)
Not even to say "No thanks" or "Not now".
Steve (3)
20/2/2024 13:08(em resposta à...)
That's just plain ignorance- no excuses.
AgentPoseidon (27)
17/2/2024 17:10This original post was before covid. Covid made this MUCH worse. It made everyone a pic collector, i.e. not ever interested in meeting, and your profile is treated as an only fans. Hence the dawn of watchfighters.
People not only can't make a meeting, they often cannot even have complete conversations or even respond at all to anything.
Tritonrising (25)
18/2/2024 09:17(em resposta à...)
I guess the other side to this is when another wrestler ignores your messages, comments etc. after contacting you, and then complains about not getting matches and others not responding.
JerseyLuchador (15 )
21/6/2023 03:16This type of stuff has been going 0n for years. Even before the wrestling websites. When wrestling matches were created in local wrestling clubs or wrestling contact lists. There were always guys who like to talk a good game, but then when it comes to action there’s a lot of no shows. You just have to roll with the punches. Just remember you can also block people. If contact someone and they say they’re not interested I block them, so that I won’t contact them again by mistake. Yes there are some men who use this site like a dating site, because maybe they’re into wrestling as well, and want to have a date with another wrestler. The can have a wrestling date. Then there are the curious men who want to see what MeetFighters is all about, and the men who are on it. Whenever you set up a match with someone you always take the chance that the won’t follow through. That is why I try not to make hotel matches unless I’m already staying in one for trips or business. Myself if I make a commitment to someone I usually follow through, and if I can’t I always try to give them a day’s notice. Being in this wrestling community we all have have patience and pick out our opponents wisely.
AZgrappler (112 )
01/12/2019 02:36Dating site ?
I didn’t know
FlDean2012 (120 )
30/11/2019 05:31We get them all the time in Fort Lauderdale. I do not know how to stop it or how we can encourage some of these websites to stop this kind of behavior. I talked to a guy for a match and he blocks me without saying 3 sentences.
osakarob (59 )
29/11/2019 20:06Let's see if we have the facts correctly:
According to your profile, you've been on the site for 18 days as of this post. You've managed to connect with ten people.
You aren't really looking for serious matches but instead hope to find guys for some "viewing and gentle roll around". You successfully met up with 2 guys for this. A 20% success rate right out of the gate! Just about 1 meet-up per week.
That doesn't seem too bad. In fact, if I'm being completely honest, it seems shockingly good.
Is it possible that you've got slightly unrealistic expectations for this site? Perhaps you can give us a sense for what you were expecting to happen when you joined? Did you anticipate meet ups every other day? (Maybe you did....fair enough. But a lot of guys here complain about barely finding 1-2 per year.)
Also, just a suggestion: I do know that some guys find it helpful to tag former opponents and write recommendations after matches. That tends to grow the credibility of your profile when others can verify your style and match expectations. So you might try that as well.
Northernbeef65 (16 )
18/2/2024 07:53(em resposta à...)
With you completely on this....
BJJWrestlerLasVegas (12)
19/6/2023 00:21(em resposta à...)
The biggest issue is still ageism and other bigotry. in a city such as Las Vegas with 24/7 transit in many areas and transit to 1am in most other areas meeting up should be easy. If one is providing mats even easier. Overcoming irrational prejudices though is hard.
Northernbeef65 (16 )
18/2/2024 07:56(em resposta à...)
Hate to share this experience to contradict yours, but actually most of the no shows and people living a wrestling fantasy from my experience are older guys - many of whom don't seem to be able to see beyond the next online w*&k and don't seem to imagine that you might REALLY want to wrestle.
Wotan (2)
29/11/2019 18:15Within 2 weeks of joining Meetfighters I had received 10 requests from guys asking for a meeting.
Many of them from members of this "Wrestlers over age 50" group.
So far only 2 of them have showed up.
The others have either made lame excuses about not actually being able to meet because of - "my work", "my car","my wife", "my diary" or "I have to take my pussy to the vet" (!) or "I'm still thinking about it".
Seems to me that Meetfighters has its fair share of TIMEWASTERS just like all the other dating sites.
Does anyone agree with me?
BJJWrestlerLasVegas (12)
14/2/2020 23:56(em resposta à...)
I totally agree with you..3 no shows this week...promises, promises, delays, then silence, silence, silence..there are those on this site, based on past experience that seem to enjoy screwing with people this way. Some will show past opponents, some won't. Of course ageism is a MAJOR problem on this site as well.
twisterman (39 )
01/12/2019 00:42(em resposta à...)
2 meets within 2 weeks is fantastic! Sounds like your expectations are a bit high. There are plenty of flakes and fakes... comes with the territory. And this is not primarily a "dating" website.
launce (0)
16/2/2020 20:56(em resposta à...)
Of course folks are here for different reasons..... BUT< IF this is not a "dating" sight, there is then no need for sexual designations, private pics of private parts, sexual preference or "want sex or not want sex"....because strictly wrestling, frankly, requires knowing none of that...or even what someone looks like...not if wrestling is ALL you're after here. So......
Wotan (2)
01/12/2019 04:07(em resposta à...)
Then why did MeetFighters quote a testimonial on its front page the other day - " the best gay dating site on the network'?
twisterman (39 )
01/12/2019 04:18(em resposta à...)
I couldn't say. But in all the years I've been here I've never seen it billed as a dating sight.
BJJWrestlerLasVegas (12)
30/11/2019 05:24(em resposta à...)
Have had people email me back and forth, then on the day we are scheduled to meet get blocked. Another case a guy says he is on his way and then gives me excuses of being "stuck in traffic" but the traffic website shows no traffic, then his radiator broke down, etc etc...hours of this nonsense...would be nice if he just cannot make it or no longer interested or similar but to make me thing he is enroute when he is not is quite cruel. I gave him and told him that as a courtesy would not list him as a no show but still no apology or explanation. He lives only 8 km away.