"Which do you prefer: Meeting up in a hotel for a match, or going to a wrestler's home?"
A number of years ago, I lived in Japan - a country notorious for cramped living quarters and crowded urban cities. But it was also the place where I was first able to connect with other wrestlers.
Naturally, finding suitable places to grapple in privacy was no easy task.
I was fortunate to meet Cobra, the nom de guerre of the owner of Japan's most famous (gay) wrestling video site, WrestleFactory. In those early days, before his video company grew to the success that it is today, he used an extra room in his house outfitted with jigsaw mats. My first matches were there and, looking back, I was really fortunate to have met someone kind, welcoming and accommodating to share their private space at home. Later, Cobra invested in a full-sized ring housed in a garage, but I only wrestled there a couple of times because it was more suited for his video production needs.
During subsequent years in Japan, I took advantage of meet-ups in "love hotels", Japan's version of short-stay hotels used for intimate rendezvous, high-school mat rooms, regular hotels, and the well known rentable ring space in Shibuya. But my most enjoyable match-ups were in the small tatami-style living room of my apartment that I outfitted with mats. The enjoyment of welcoming several wrestlers over at a time for an afternoon of different opponents is probably something I'll never replicate again. It was just one of those "right times in life" when everything came together: Japan is an incredibly safe country and as a single guy at the time it was easy to even welcome strangers into my home after setting up a wrestling date online. (Like the ancient image from the archives included in this post) What a huge evolution it is now to have a sight like MeetFighters with verifiable members and dossiers of confirmed opponents!
I repatriated myself back to the USA some years ago and eventually settled down. These days, I've been more selective about matches, opponents, and venues. My wrestling preferences have also changed over the years and now after a couple of submission style tries, I prefer to end with oil matches on a tarp. Naturally, hotels are easier for that than hosting at my home. But as with everything in life....there are tradeoffs: cost and availability being the most significant. But also, safety and comfort - establishing enough trust and "relational capital" with a prospective opponent to meet at a hotel feels different than it did back when I was younger. Maybe older and wiser just means more cautious.
All of these thoughts got me to thinking:
"Given that everyone has individual circumstances, generally speaking which do you prefer - meeting up in a hotel for a match or going to a wrestler's home?"
I'd be quite interested to hear why members of this site have the preferences that they do!
I'm currently working on a pro-wrestling illustration series in my Manga Pro-Wrestling website. The characters are from a long-running Japanese comic and animation series.
So far, I've posted illustrations featuring a Lock-up, a Full Nelson, and a Side Headlock. I'm posting the illustrations on a monthly basis for the next few months, and I hope I finally get to wrap this up this year.
For those interested in viewing the series, you can proceed to this link:
UPDATE: The poster that originally came along with this blog entry had to be reclassified, so I've decided to feature some of the illustrations I've posted for this series. I hope you'll enjoy it.
Although I have been able to get in more matches the past couple months, I'm wanting to do yet more. Trying to find enough local guys to wrestle so I can get in 2-to-4 matches a week. Also into just about any of the martial arts–gi or no gi, also gi wrestling. Been posting in the matches-wanted section here; but no luck so far from that. If you are Washington DC area local, let's wrestle. If your know wrestlers & mma related wanting to train on a regular basis, pls let them know I am looking. Usually available. If you have suggestions, pls let me have them. Check out my profile, including recommendations.
If I have ever missed a meet with someone hopefully I have let them know well beforehand. If not I apologise now.
I don't understand just not turning up it makes things difficult for other wrestlers and matroom providers. Sometimes with a significant cost.
It may be a turn off to many guys, but I'm in love with wrestling gimmicks.
Hell, as a kid that was the reason to watch WWF back then, besides of mucle men who beat each other up. Aww, it was so nice when we believed everything was real... just remember Tatanka, Doink, The Undertaker (I was afraid of him) or Yokozuna.
It just made a great show and since I was bored the last days and have a knack in making stuff up, I just created 3 gimmicks for myself... just for fun and this site. No idea, if they will ever be used.
He is confident, he is on the right side. Strangely he is a non-jewish Zionist, something you don't see very often. But yeah, the only democracy in the middle east can always have some strong fans.
Based on my personal love for Israel and the jewish people.
"The Lost Player"
Full of sadness and anger. He got refused by all Rugby teams cause he wasn't capable of team play, which is deadly for this sport. He lost his mind and sees now refusal everywhere, which makes him angry and happy for some hurtful revenge.
Based on my own failures to fit in teams and sport.
"Oddy the Pink"
He likes furry things, is in general very passive but can be playful with provocation. His mission is to make fun of the manliness of wrestling putting more pink and cuddles into fights. When he likes his opponent he wants to hug and fondle. How to scare hetero men!
Based on my own fear of touching other men and the wish for contact sports.
Here we go... I have really fun in posing and dressing up and just work with characters. It takes me out of depression for a short time. And people seem to like it on here. :D
Have fun guys!
A new month - and a new wrestling fight. Last month I had the impression that I in April would have two opponents to choose between this month, but I never got to wrestle any of them, for the first guy also planned to attend the International Wrestling Camp in Lindow coming June, and since I would be going there myself I could wrestle him there. While with the other guy I could not decide the day for a meeting this April. So I had to think of other possibilities - and that possibility came from a much unexpected angle.
Last year, in June, I had planned to meet several other wrestlers during a trip to Paris, but I was then forced to cancel that trip because of strikes in Paris, and since then I had kept a note of those guys I had planned to wrestle then. Much to my surprise one of these guys, Stoker, was not living in Paris, France but in Naples, Italy. Thinking that I maybe had got his name wrong then I contacted him again to find out if he was still a potential opponent for me - and indeed he was!
However, he had no plans of coming to Paris again in the near future, but he would be coming to Frankfurt am Main for Easter, and if I could get to Frankfurt he would be happy to wrestle me in his hotel room there. I knew that it was relatively easy for me to get to Frankfurt, and since I had most of the Easter days free I could easily come down to Frankfurt for a match with him.
I arrived in Frankfurt in the late Friday evening, and then it would be too late to wrestle. But right the Saturday morning we cleared the mattress of pillows and duvets and started to wrestle. Stoker was probably the strongest wrestler I have ever fought. He didn't compress me or minimized the fighting space just like my Berlin friend kleiner kerl did, so compared to him the fight with Stoker was more open. But I could not use that extra space for much, for Stoker was immensely strong and he probably was the strongest wrestler I had ever fought. I was taller than him and also 20 kgs heavier, but with Stoker I felt like a puppy in his hands.
Our fight was intense but short. Stoker sent me tapping out two or three times, and only once I got him in a head scissor, which he had no problems freeing himself of. Suddenly Stoker stopped wrestling because I was bleeding from my head. I had not noticed this, for I tend to never notice small wounds, and as I had not felt anything unusual it probably was just a small cut. But Stoker had several times before had opponents bleeding. Actually he told me that he had a growing interest for such tough fights. He was going to meet two guys this May in Scotland, where he hoped that he could have some very intense matches. I was only happy that I had met up with Stoker before he had become even stronger!
Stoker had not come to Frankfurt with the aim of wrestling but for holiday - but of course he had been happy that he could have another wrestling opponent while here. My cut wouldn't stop bleeding, probably because of the medication I have taken after the blood clot, so we stopped wrestling this day and hoped we could have a second match the following morning. Instead we could use today as tourists, for none of us had been to Frankfurt before.
We never got to wrestle the following morning, for we had to pack up and check out from the hotel before noon - and maybe it was better so, as he the day before had told me that after this next match I would cease to exist. I had the impression that this threat had never been real, for in such case I knew that I would be able to defend myself. But while on the flight home I was thinking if wrestling was the right thing for me after all. For I had never been a fighter, and with this attitude how should I ever become a better wrestler? I had always wished to be wrestled by the better wrestlers, but Stoker had showed me that wrestling such strong guy was maybe not so desirable. Probably there is a reason why it is recommended to choose opponents with similar stats.
Maybe I would find out when in June I would participate in this wrestling camp in Lindow. But I also knew that it wouldn't take long before I would look forward to my next wrestling match - and I still had not made any appointments for May...!
Apparently our governor signed a bill in the last day or two that will make it easier for indy wrestling shows to be staged in Washington. Still looking for an explanation of what they did but one report I heard this AM sounds like it allows pro wrestling schools to stage smaller events eg you just can't waltz into the state as a promoter and put on an event - you have to partner with someone in state. Ideally it will mean we get shows going into the smaller real venues with trained performers rather than some bar in Seattle.
Along that thought, I found it interesting that WCWC had Caleb Conley on their last show in Portland. Caleb had/has a contract to work for Impact/TNA Wrestling and I think he works primarily works down in the SE. Definitely interesting to see how he works his matches.
Ich möchte mich bei Meetfighters.com bedanken!
Ich bin nun 1 Jahr hier dabei und hab festgestellt, dass das genau, das richtige für mich ist.
In einen Jahr hab ich viel Erfahrung gesammelt, hab viel neues erlebt, neue Orte gesehen, besonders hat es mir viel Spaß bereitet und vor allem viele neue Freunde gefunden!
Mit vielen meiner ehemaligen Gegner hab ich regelmäßig Kontakt und wir treffen uns mehrmals.
Und ich möchte gern noch weitere neue interessante Treffen erleben (auch bei mir daheim in Augsburg) und auch noch viele neue Freunde kennen lernen.
Ich wünsche hier allen Meetfighter-Mitglieder viele interessanten Gegner und besonders viel Spaß und beste Erfolg!
I would like to thank Meetfighters!
I've been here for 1 year now and have found that this is exactly the right thing for me.
In a year I have gained a lot of experience, I have experienced a lot of new things, seen new places, especially I have a lot of fun and found many new friends!
I have regular contact with many of my former opponents and we meet several times.
And I would like to experience even more new interesting meetings (also with me at home in Augsburg) and also to meet many new friends.
I wish all Meetfighter members lots of interesting opponents and lots of fun and best success!
Greetings! Hope everyone who celebrated Easter or Passover recently - or the Equinox last month! - had a wonderful holiday. And especially warm thoughts go out to the Admins and contributors who make MeetFighters possible!
At the beginning of the year, for reasons I still have trouble pinning down, I joined this site to finally give a shot to what has been an interest, passion and fantasy of mine for years: wrestling. I'd been aware of the site for years, had a previous profile used mainly for cyber matches... and have been ensconced in the gay/underground wrestling scene more than most non-participants for a long time. Joining up and actually seeking out matches was a scary prospect, but this site has proven to be the perfect tool for finding fights, and connecting with fighters of all kinds.
I am continually impressed by the dedication and professionalism of the Admin team. Despite understandable warnings of how busy they are, I have never waited very long for a support response. With no payment and too little appreciation, the Admins and those who volunteer to help have created here an online community that is at once focused and welcoming of a range of interests... inviting and easy for new members, yet secure .... and which manages to be both accommodating of anonymity and well-designed to give one ample details about even the faceless members.
If I were to design a site from the ground up, with the mission of this site... it might look different but would be functionally very similar to MeetFighters.
Recently I have pushed several guys whom I've met through other channels to either sign up or re-activate their old accounts. I especially appreciate the new Verification feature and encourage it, and not just for new members! And I would recommend this site to anyone looking to start fighting.
That said, I do have a few minor issues which I'll lay out. Some of these have been discussed with the Admin through the Idea Box... others are just my subjective opinion and amount to little annoyances more than anything else.
To begin with what I raised to Admin most recently, I do have some issue with the presence on the site of guys who demand to be paid for wrestling as a service. I do not begrudge guys who can get away with charging for wrestling the chance to do so - I just think it should be out in the open. I believe the current policy has created a black market of prosti-wrestling, which was not its intent (and seems actually counter to the intent of the 3-year-old poll on which the current policy is based).
I think it's unfortunate for any guy on here to approach a "community member" for a match only to be told there's a fee, after putting himself out there. I think it's especially gross that some guys charge selectively - using fees to either weed out or make bank from those they find somehow unworthy. Again, I personally think it's their right, but I find it to be a repugnant practice in what is supposed to be a "community." As I wrote to the Admin, "As for the guys who only charge certain challengers, no idea what to do other than tell them to be better people. Although it wouldn't be too hard to add a line specifying who's unfortunate enough to get charged along with [the proposed] "You Can Buy My Time" check box."
My request has simply been that a profile check-box be added for anyone who charges for wrestling to be up-front about that. I think it's good for everyone: saves guys seeking matches from getting pissed off by being rebuffed with a price tag; saves semi-pro's time in weeding through messages from guys who won't pay; and it saves the site as a whole from the impression (expressed to me by a straight prospective member) that - like many personals sites - it's a thinly-disguised escort board. And I think the status quo - which gives genuine advantages to commercial members in terms of past opponents and recommendations (thinking of a member who joined recently and instantly had dozens of recommendations thanks to pro-for-hire work) - is toxic to the very idea of this place being a "community."
Beyond the pay-me-pro's among us, like I said most of my issues are minor annoyances... and most also have to do with inconsistencies in the application of site policy.
For example, the rules governing profile pics seem to be applied very differently depending on where you live (and sometimes just arbitrarily). Like, apparently I can't use a cropped torso shot in a singlet - yet there are countless members from Europe with profile pics of them in a singlet, head cropped out (there are literally two such profile pics at the top of my screen right now). Today, I saw a profile pic from a Texas member that was just his back. Inconsistencies like this create unnecessary feelings of unfairness. Ultimately, I really don't care about having to go with the shirtless pic I did... but why did I have to, when so many members don't seem to? It comes down to, why are those guys allowed to present themselves as they choose, but I cannot, even though it's the SAME way? Again, minor... but definitely annoying.
I'm also not crazy about meetings going away... And it's 2017, so I do think it's silly for ALL videos to be "premium content." Easier access to videos might actually entice guys to join up. I wish it were possible to dismiss Match Requests that happen to include your demo, but which don't apply to or interest you - but I brought that up and understand it's a no-go; easy enough to ignore those anyway.
So... ***On the whole, MF is freaking awesome!!!*** - and I remain immensely grateful for its existence and for those who work to keep it going and improving. Please do not let the criticism here take away from my enormous general satisfaction with the site or admiration for its Admins and contributors. I just want to express my appreciation, and maybe contribute to the ongoing dialogue about how this community can keep improving to serve all of its members as well as possible.
Thanks for reading!
Someone on this site stole two singlets a few years back that were near and dear to me. One has monetary value and both have a lot of sentimental value (the other was given to me by a college wrestler as a gift). I know he has them because I have finally seen one on his new wrestling site that he and his fiance have created. I cannot name names on here but if anyone could help me retrieve these singlets or talk some sense into the person on this site to return them I would greatly appreciate it. Please message me. I am asking for help from the wrestling community here to just retrieve things that were wrongfully taken, not trying to start trouble. If he could just return my things I can certainly move on. It pains me to see guys like that continue on these sites knowing he still has things that dont belong to him.